Is it time to recalibrate mid career?

Our personal growth is a result of our everyday experiences, insight we gather, the choices we make and the fast-paced ever-changing world we live in. As we age, just like we look different on the outside we are different on the inside. Subtle changes which may go unnoticed but after time can suddenly be more obvious and affect our behaviour, decisions, reactions and how we view the world around us, what fulfils us and what makes us happy.

So how can we make sure that we continue to achieve the best out of ourselves and our careers as we evolve?

Let’s start with some questions…

Have you ever got frustrated that suddenly the tried and tested ways of working and thinking don’t seem to be giving you the results you want or have done in the past?

Are you finding it hard to make sense of thinking, perhaps feeling out of alignment of where you are in your career, less passionate about walking into the office every day or finding it hard to inspire yourself to progress?

Are you wondering how you will continue to feel energised and fulfilled in your career with many years left to work?

If Yes was the answer to all or any of the above questions then chances are you are ready and in need of recalibration mid-career.

Let’s talk recalibration

Recalibrating means taking time to step back, reflecting and updating the way you think and your behaviour to enable you to confidently steer yourself towards clear up to date success criteria. It means being crystal clear on who you are right now, who you want to be, what will make you happy and how you can actively lead yourself effectively to maximise your untapped potential. Ultimately it’s about asking yourself the right questions, tweaking the mindset, the belief bank and the personal operating system so that you can push yourself forward decisively with energy, determination and positivity.

Mid-career is a great time to take stock of who you have become, where you are and what’s missing, in order to make the next chapter of your career focused, satisfying and contributing to your life success. Recalibration helps you maximise your mid-life years and is needed in order to reboot your career especially when you’ve lost the love and engagement with what you thought you’d be doing forever, if you want to explore new opportunities or to enable you to push through ceilings, beat restlessness and plateauing.

Here are 5 reasons how mid-career recalibration will lead to continued career success.

shine a light on your priorities

We are unlikely to be the same person we were in our teens, twenties, thirties and so on and what is important to us changes. With a wealth of competencies and developed perspective, you now have the tools to really understand what you want out of your life and how your career can help you achieve this. When you shine a light on your priorities – you values – you make sure you are aligned to what is truly important to you, helps eliminate any unsettled feeling and helps you make decisions. Taking time to reflect on what makes us tick, what’s important to us and what we value allows us to reset our compass and start to steer ourselves to build a career and life with more of what we love to do, what we are passionate about and less of what isn’t important to us.

clarity on your career path

Complacency, comfort zone and beliefs can keep us stuck within the confines of one idea of a career. In today’s world, we are not destined to have just one career. But without recalibration, too many of us stay stuck, frustrated and uninspired following an out of date career pathway. When we recalibrate, we take time to explore exactly what excites us and the skills, strengths and passions which we want to focus on. Setting career goals based on a clear vision helps bring clarity and energy to decisions which can then be turned into strategy and an action plans to help you confidently navigate the right career path.


A need for recalibration isn’t because something is broken. It’s unlikely you need fixing you just need to focus on improving and realigning yourself in certain areas in order to function and perform better. When anything has been going for a long time it’s very likely to be tired and in need of a boost to re-energise it. And as humans, we are no different. When you recalibrate, you connect with doing more of what you love, align yourself once more with your values and start to focus on your well-being. The end result is a more confident and continually energised version of you.

Kill off negative whispers

With experience, we build a bank of personal stories and beliefs which can lead to unhelpful negative energy and chatter inside. When we recalibrate, we take time to spot the helpful personal stories, those that can give us empowering beliefs to spur us on, to take risks and push through fear. We also learn to notice and challenge the stories in our heads which are holding us back, feeding the negative whispers of our inner mind monkeys and doing us no good. The outcome, a bank of empowering beliefs, an ability to make peace with past experiences freeing us from negativity and regret, and a greater focus on a future full of positive thinking and opportunity.

Identify opportunity for growth

If we don’t stop and reflect on our strengths, skills and situation we are closing our eyes to opportunity. Through coaching, I love it when clients have amazing aha moments throughout the experience. Particularly those breakthrough moments which bring a realisation of how much more they have to offer and what more the world has to offer them. The tunnelled vision suddenly becomes an open playing field. Once we open our eyes to a bigger clear picture, and with a recalibrated operating system, the freedom of choice and potential for making changes, re-engaging or reinventing yourself mid-career seem more achievable.

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3 ways to achieve more out of your performance at work every day

Have you hit a slump or wondering what it will take to just shift yourself up a gear without the need to spend lots of time and money on training and development? Then here are 3 tips to help you achieve more out of your performance at work every day starting right now.

Tip 1 – Start to actively listen

This means you don’t just open your ears and let words filter in but become 100% present. Listening with ears, eyes and emotions so that you immerse yourself in the here and now. Those who actively listen are intent on understanding not just hearing and this means they don’t miss an opportunity; their productivity rockets and relationships improve. You can start this immediately by limiting distractions, giving someone your full attention and asking more questions.

Tip 2 – Rewrite your personal workplace rule book

Are you your own worst enemy when it comes to performance management. Zapping our energy and effectiveness with poor habits which impact time and attention management, and knock our performance. Giving your own personal workplace rule book an overhaul will help you stop bad behaviours which are limiting you. It starts with an honest reflection on habits, identification of better behaviour and then rewriting the personal rules. Perhaps, it’s the ‘no chit chat’ at work rule or the rules around diary management that need attention. Maybe, it’s the saying no more than yes rule. Or rules that stop you always being distracted by email or technology.

You will know what needs to change when you take a look at your daily routine, identify where and how you spend time and when you honestly accept you are holding yourself back.. Follow your own clear, disciplined rules and to turn your performance up.

Tip 3 – Set developmental goals

If you know something isn’t working and you want to change it, then don’t just think it or set an intention, set a clearly defined, measurable goal. Goals sign post you to greater performance. They keep you accountable to your actions, help you focus and motivate you to get the best out of yourself. So, take 3 things you know need changing or developing today and break them down into manageable goals – be specific and realistic, decide when you want to achieve them and then go for it. Get focused and you’ll see the boost in performance immediately.

Start leading yourself to better and you’ll start to make every day your best day.

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Career coaching: Key rules for job hunting

You’ve made the decision to seek a change in job or career path. Perhaps you’ve worked out what you want and what’s missing. You thought that was the tough bit! However, getting started on finding that perfect role is proving ever so difficult. There is no denying that job hunting is daunting. Whether you’ve done it many times before or not. Change brings uncertainty, fear and barriers. Knowing where to start is a mystery. I know, I’ve been there and so have my clients. When career coaching clients I offer these golden rules for embarking on job hunting to help you on your way.

Have a plan

A plan gives you focus and helps you break down the search into steps making the whole process less confused, more structured and less daunting. It helps you feel in control, gives you benchmark for your process and direction. When you have a plan you forward think what you will need along the way making you more resourceful, considering blocks before they arise and enabling you to flex your approach.

Be clear on the end goal

Career goals are the core of your career plan. If you don’t know where you’re heading with clarity, then you are likely to stumble down wrong paths misusing energy. Clear goals also motivate you because they are believable, realistic, focused and connected to the your personal inspiring WHY.  When you define your goal, connect with it using techniques like visualisation to really feel it, smell it, taste it and sense it. Build the belief and the reality in your mind and you will fuel your desire and motivation to achieve it.


Good old fashion brainstorming is a must for getting all your ideas out of your head. You can go as far as career mapping or mind mapping which are tools used to focus and explore different paths. These tools help bring to the forefront detours and steps you could take to achieve your longer term career goal and filling you with options you didn’t know were there. There is also nothing wrong with simply grabbing a pen and paper and jotting down all your ideas in a list. It’s the thinking, reflecting and idea generating that counts.

Get clear on your ideal career formula

When I work with clients we focus on defining an ideal career formula. This pulls together what I define as the 4 Ps – Priorities (values), Purpose, Passions and Powers (skills, strengths and personality). Understanding exactly who you are, what you have to offer, what is important to you and what you want more and less of in your next role, allows you to create your ideal career formula as a checklist.

Create a foundation CV

Get that CV dusted off and give it an overhaul as soon as you start the job search. Don’t wait to be asked for it. Creating a foundation CV which reflects who you are today, your core experience, strengths and value as soon as possible means you are ready to spend time tailoring your CV for each job that comes up without panic and pressure. Read my tips for overhauling your cv here.

keep going even when you want to give up

There are going to be knock backs, days you feel demotivated and as if you are searching in a sea of hopelessness, BUT persistency pays off. Take a break. Start a fresh the next day. But whatever you do, keep going. Look for lessons from what seems like failure – always seek feedback, refine your search approach if it’s not working. review and expand your criteria or talk to a professional. Believe in yourself and the opportunity you seek.

Use your network

Almost all jobs I have ever got have been via my network. That’s not saying it’s been easy but using your connections is an added advantage in finding out about unadvertised opportunities, getting to know more about industries/ companies, getting a personal introduction to get your cv to the top of the pile and into the right hands. Before you start your search, map out your network (all walks of your life – past and present), use resources like LinkedIn to connect with people you know and schedule some catch up coffees with people who could help you. This way you can be more proactive and less reactive in your job hunt.

Analyse job descriptions

Don’t be fooled by a job title or turned off by a sector or company because it’s not what you initially thought you wanted. Peel back the unconscious bias you may have about a role and really analyse what a job may offer you. Ask yourself questions such as – What exactly might a day look like in this role? What will I learn? What skills and strengths will I get to use? Where could this role lead? What does appeal to me about this job?

Get energised

Lacking energy is one of the most common excuses I hear from clients as to why they haven’t taken steps on agreed action. The job hunt process is time consuming and it’s exhausting. Often, it’s on top of your current ‘full on’ job and you’re exhausted anyway because of the negativity and stress you are potentially trying to escape. Find ways to boost your energy. Get good sleep, eat well, exercise, do things you love and get fresh air. Lead yourself into the energy you need!

Schedule your time like any project

When you schedule time in your calendar you are more likely to get it done. It’s an act of commitment. Schedule your job search like an important appointment just as you would doctor’s for example. Make it one of those ‘can’t move’ diary entries. It may mean giving up something else for a period of time – maybe the odd gym visit, a night out with friends or a Netflix binge or perhaps changing some working habits like staying late or undisciplined time management. Any sacrifice to carve out dedicated time will be worth it you know that!

Get interview practice

Maybe the job doesn’t 100% appeal, maybe you think there is something else and better around the corner. Getting an interview is not to be dismissed. Perhaps there is more to the job than you can see in the job description. Consider the potential progression opportunities which may not be obvious to begin with. Be curious, open minded and definitely use every opportunity to build your experience and interview technique.

It’s about the future not the past

It’s easy to get caught up on the past without realising it could affect your future job. How you may ask? Firstly, If you have built up pre-conceptions about roles, people and companies through bad experience there maybe the tendency to expect more of the same. This makes you wary and it will show in your search and body language. Additionally, when you focus solely on all you’ve done in the past and not what you want to do in the future you limit yourself. One of my greatest mentors gave me a fabulous piece of advice when I was worried about being unqualified for a role, she said ‘Why would you want to do a role you can already do?

Still not sure how to motivate and get going with job hunting? Need a little support and clarity? Why not book a FREE discovery callto find out how I can help you.’

Habits which kill your productivity

In this 24/7 world we live in it’s getting harder and harder to be productive. To get into flow when you need to concentrate and to manage your attention. However, you have the power to be more productive by getting on top of habits which lead you to self sabotage your own productivity levels.

Check out the list below and put your hand up to which you recognise as your habits;

Having no routine

Bad sleep ‘hygiene’ (you know iPhone in bed, netflix binges late into the night, too much caffeine….) and poor sleep

Saying Yes when you know you really should say No

Not planning your day ahead

Having no to do list

Not being clear on priorities – focusing on all the quick and easy things on your to do list!

Deviating from your to do list

Wearing multitasking as a badge of honour

Not taking breaks

Poor eating habits

Excessive use of social media

Being a slave to your email

Trying to do everything yourself

Having a cluttered work space

No systems or structure to your work flow

Spending time with energy zapping friends, family and colleagues!

‘Fear of missing out’ tendencies

Change any of these and you’ll instantly start to repair your productivity level.

Pick at least 3 for this week and really focus on step changing the way you behave and lead yourself. Comment below to keep yourself accountable! or email me for a little motivation from the sidelines

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My top tips for overhauling your cv

The CV is still the document employers will request when they are looking at you for a potential role. The other day I got asked for mine even though I’d been recruited for the contract. So even if you don’t go down a formal interview process, chances are someone at some point will ask for your cv. It’s a staple piece of your identity which helps you tick the boxes recruiters need. It eases the process for them and it’s required by HR for their files.

So, when was the last time you overhauled your CV? Are you ready to go if someone requests it tomorrow?

Here are my top tips for updating and creating a stand out CV;

Style it

Would you show up to the interview not looking polished and turned out in your best selected outfit? No of course not. So, take this view when you look at the design and layout for your CV. Over the years being on the receiving end of CVs, the ones I was drawn to first were the ones not overly creative, but which looked like they had been pulled together with care and attention. Easy to read, formatted and free from errors. Styling your CV doesn’t mean you need to be a designer. There are plenty of templates which you can find on the web to guide you or tap into freelancers out there maybe via Fiver offering to style and design your CV for a small fee.

don’t lose the content by trying to be too different

Styling is important but it doesn’t mean you have to be overtly creative. Standing out is important but not at the expense of your content and the recipients time. Often, I have coachee’s panic when discussing their CV with the fear that nowadays you have to be ‘ultra-creative’ with your CV –  3d, videos or PowerPoints often are discussed. These may work as a hook to grab attention and encourage your actual CV to be read or for certain industry sectors, but be careful not to let creativity and trying to be different limit your content and impact. My experience an employer wants a simple to read CVwhich tells them everything they need to know quickly and effectively.

Create a foundation cv and tailor it

One size definitely does not fit all when it comes to your CV. I always recommend clients create a foundation CV – one which covers the essence of who you are and what you’ve done. Then for every job you apply for, tailor it to showcase your suitability as the best candidate. That means taking time to cross reference your CV with every job description and making sure you tick all their requirements. Update parts of your CV and bring attention to key elements of your skills and experience. Make sure you are as relevant and appealing for every job you apply for as possible. No cutting corners.

Think about the reader

Likelihood is someone is looking at your CV as they go through a pile of CVs knowing they have other tasks to do and just want to get through them. Or the task of shortlisting CVs has been delegated to someone else which means they have a clear criterion of what to look for. Research has indicated that an employer will take less than 30 seconds to read your cv. A carefully crafted CV which thinks about the reader will get more attention. Firstly, always start with a strong Personal Profile/ statement section which highlights who you are, key experience, key successes and skills (all tailored to the job don’t forget). Your personal profile /statement needs to be simple, concise and easy to read at the same time full of juicy content. Secondly, make the whole CV easy to read with bullet points and headings, using words which match the job description to describe you and your experience.

It’s about what you offer not what you did

Too often people create a CV providing a list of past companies and a list of tasks and responsibilities. All good and well but this requires the employer to do a bit of thinking about exactly what you offer them. Be more obvious with what you offer an employer. Tell them the value you bring with a focus on skills, strengths and examples of where you have delivered results. Don’t leave it for them to work out exactly whether you have what they need. This means you should spend some time really understanding and capturing what transferable skills, your expertise, your strengths and your personality which you have built over the years before writing your CV.


Reflective of who you are and how you will show up in the room. Authenticity is key. However, that doesn’t give you license to be informal or lack professional decorum. Let your personality come through but don’t fall into colloquial language and abbreviations.


Chances are you may have had a plethora of experience which you want to showcase but no employer wants pages and pages of a CV to wade through. Maximising your CV to 2 (at a push 3 pages) is more than enough for a mid-career professional. Don’t be repetitive. Use bullet points, sub headings and be concise with what you write – no essays allowed!  – I always say to my coaching clients give a prospective employer enough for them to want to ask you more and not too little that they take no interest. Use the accompanying cover letter to add more detail around specific experience and the interview to tell the full story

Silly mistakes to avoid

Finally, over the years I’ve seen many very competent people miss out on an interview through silly mistakes which you would do well to avoid.

  • Spell and grammar check! No employer wants to employ a sloppy person.
  • Don’t fire the same CV off to every employer.
  • Try to explain gaps on your cv rather than look like you are hiding something.
  • Order your cv with a focus on your most recent experience, don’t rely on that one role years before which you think captures your employability.
  • Always be consistent – ensure your CV mirrors what can be seen on LinkedIn, online application forms and wherever else an employer could potentially find out about your experience.
  • Don’t lie – tailoring does not mean lying. Matching your cv to a job does not mean writing what you see an employer wants if you don’t have it in the personal toolbox. Tailoring means peeling back your experience to spot your relevancy and what you truly offer which matches the job description.
  • Don’t miss out on an opportunity because you don’t believe your CV stands up on first sight to a specific job.. Spend some time working out what skills and experience the role truly requires and reflect on what you really have before dismissing an opportunity.
  • Maximise every opportunity to showcase your value.  Your interests and achievements add as much insight into your value and offering as your qualifications and work experience.

Need support updating your cv or working out how to get the job of your dream? Get in touch and book a FREE discovery call to find out how I could help you

If you couldn’t fail what would you do now which would transform your year and your career?

This is one of the most powerful questions from a coaches toolbox. Powerful because it removes one of the biggest factors getting in the way of your ability to achieve all you dream of. That is the fear of failure.

Fear of failure sits within all of us. No matter how experienced we are or how confident we generally feel most of the time. At the back of our mind is the sense of potential failure whenever we look to make a change or pursue a dream.

More and more is written about how failure is the key to success and a bed of learning but we still hesitate. Many people continue to tread water in fear of what may happen. Moreover, they put their dreams, ideas and desires to the back of their mind and hide. Too often change and transformation which will fulfil and satisfy is avoided rather than pursued.

Could this be you? Don’t worry if it resonates as you are definitely not alone.

With just over 4 months left of 2018, what is it you really want to do which you could step change your career and or performance ? What could fundamentally transform your year and your future? What are you stepping back and hesitating on?


A conversation with your boss about a promotion or payrise?

A new qualification?

A search for a new job?

A change in team structure?

Going to networking events?

Saying yes to the public speaking opportunity?

Shut your eyes, take a minute and let the dream and action rise to the surface. Allow yourself to come out from behind your safe barrier giving yourself permission to be honest with yourself. Ask yourself the question, ‘If I knew I could not fail what would I do right now to create transformation by the end of this year?

Got it? Can you see it? Feel it?

Are you ready to go for it or is anxiety and a plethora of excuses coming into your mind too?

A great strategy to beat fear of failure is to pour out all the fears you hold around pursuing the dream or the change. Get to the root of what you truly fear or feel anxious about. Equally important is being curious and exploring the stories you have playing in your head. So, now ask ‘what’s the worst that could happen if I decide to go for this?

Visualising failure may feel like a path to doom but it’s not if you are willing to challenge your thinking. Getting closer to your fear of failure will empower you. In essence it fuels planning and make you more resourceful.

Additionally, understanding what you fear also gives you the chance to debate your thinking. It allows you to counter your stories around ‘perceived’ failure with a more rationale perspective. Even if initially you don’t believe there is any other point of view or end result. It enables you to build up a bank of beliefs which will work for you not against you as you take steps out of your comfort zone.

Author Tim Ferris captures perfectly how we need to deal with our fear in this quote. ‘The goal isn’t to be fearless, the goal is to fear less’. Arming yourself with greater awareness around what you truly want and the stories you are telling yourself is important to driving change.  Then using self-leadership strategies such as auditing, debating, planning, talking, meditating, yoga, eating and breathing well will equip you to pursue the path towards transformation. with greater confidence.

In conclusion, you are standing on the potential to transform you career, performance and life. Are you ready to push yourself through your fears?


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Summer Coaching Bonus Offer

I’m on a mission to help ‘Make Everyday the Best Day’ for as many people as possible. To me this means helping create more love and fulfilment in the work you do and to ensure your operating system is primed to deliver your best performance so you feel greater satisfaction and impact everyday.

I’m kicking off this initiative with the chance to invest in coaching packages with a selection of summer coaching bonus offers for those signing up for coaching this month.

Summer Coaching bonus offer – select from one of the following;

  • 1 extra free hour added to all Career Focus coaching packages (3 level of investment available)A FREE CV check and feedback to all new clients
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  • 10% discount on ‘Achieve More’ my monthly momentum coaching programme
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So is now the time to invest in your career?

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Believe in your best. Believe in making every day your best day!

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Are you giving yourself enough credit to how good you really are?

When I work with people I get to know them pretty intimately. They share their passions, dreams, shortfalls, mistakes and frustrations. We have fun delving deep into exploring what makes them amazing and what doesn’t. Pretty revealing and personal stuff needed to unlock the authentic and purpose led individual they need to connect with in order to truly design the career they want or to empower them to up their performance game to fulfil their potential.

When we look at ‘personal powers’ – which is how I define the things you are amazing at – it always reveals one amazing limitation.

People rarely give themselves enough credit for what they are good at!

It’s a struggle for many people to see clearly all they have achieved and their true strengths. Peeling back and identifying what lies in your power bank is much harder than you think. Most people only really recognise the top layer of what they see as skills and strengths. Even then, a lot of people stop at simply listing out the tasks they can do well, missing out on giving themselves enough credit for how good they actually are. Important stuff if you want to sell yourself to a new employer or to get more responsibility, recognition and career advancement.

So, pause a moment – are you too quick to brush over your most amazing self? Is it easier to focus on what’s lacking?

If you want to achieve more and build up your confidence then you have the ingredients inside already to combat the inner negative chatter from the mind monkey which puts you down. You have more to offer than you likely think. You need to learn to give yourself more credit where it is due.

What are you personal powers?

Write a list today of what makes you great. See if you can fill a side of A4. Study it and embrace it as the truth pure and simple.

Believe in your best. Believe in making every day your best day.

We train people the way to treat us

Last week I ran one of my core workshops around working smarter and managing overwhelm. As what always happens, the focus of conversation fell on how hard it is to work smarter when other people interrupt and disrupt us and that smartphones are the bane of our lives.  People and technology the gateway to intrusion, interruption and frustration when we are trying our hardest to be productive.

The truth is we can point the finger of blame at others and technology, but if we truly want to manage our workloads and work smarter then we have to start by looking at ourselves. We are the main culprits of ineffective working. Therefore, we have to get clear on the behaviour, habits and thinking which get in the way of our own smarter working.

We have to set boundaries for ourselves and use these to train people on how we need to be treated to ensure effective working.

Today personal boundaries are all but disappearing in the workplace. Open plan offices make it easy for others to approach and interrupt. Technology means we are available in different ways 24/7. Fear of missing out dominates the mindset. Flatter hierarchies make things less formal, pushing the respect and flow boundaries which once streamlined communication.

But, we still have choices.
We can still choose how to respond to any situation, any person and any technology. That’s why the finger of blame lies above our own heads.

I remember working a 4 day week with Friday my day off. Without fail I would moan at the end of a Friday how much people had disturbed me, how much work I had had to do, how I was unable to focus on the children or whatever task I was doing. However, I chose to answer the phone, I chose to check emails, I chose to accept online meeting requests.

Our personal standards have slipped so that discipline, focus and respect are much lower than they use to be. But we still crave and need these for working smarter.

If we want to feel more in control of our working day and be more effective setting boundaries is fundamentally important to our success.

Boundaries  say ‘I have standards’ and that  ‘I am of value’.  They don’t say ‘I’m difficult’ or “I’m selfish’. They say ‘I am clear on how i want to live and work’ or ‘’I am in control of my effectiveness’ and “this is how I can give & achieve my best’.

I believe we are all hard wired to help others which makes it hard to put a barrier up to anyone. That we are the victim of our own habits meaning we reach for the smartphone unconciously more often than consciously. Furthermore, we owe it to our own wellbeing to set boundaries which to all intents and purpose are personal rules we live and work by. This way we can start to correct our own poor behaviour as well as that of those around us.

When I stopped turning my phone on on a  Friday and stopped accepting meeting requests, to begin with it rubbed people up the wrong way. They felt entitled to my availability because I had taught them that. Slowly I trained the people I worked with to treat me and my time differently by setting new boundaries. I audited what was working and what was not. Looked at cause and effect. It didn’t take long for them to accept the new rules I worked by, it didn’t mean i became completely inflexible and it changed others habits along the way. I noticed my team started to become more productive and effective themselves as a result of my boundaries – forward thinking what may need attention on my day off, increasing their resourcefulness and building their confidence to make their own decisions. You see there are advantages in saying No not just to you but also to others!

No is the hardest word, it makes or breaks any boundary you put in place.

It becomes easier to say No I promise when you truly connect to the reason for the boundary. For me it was about my wellbeing and the importance of connecting with my children in undisturbed moments. For a client of mine, who spent all her day in meetings having to work at night to do the bulk of her project work, it was easy to say No more often when she could explain that her quality of output was suffering. Easier for another who started to say No to working past 6.30pm because she had running club for mental health and wellbeing challenges she was facing. That powerful ‘Why’ behind the rules you set keeps a boundary firmly in place once established.

Boundaries maybe met with resistance, a little annoyance and frustration at first as you begin to train those around you. But persevere and communicate. Lead by example – treat people how you expect to be treated. Remember the end result you are aiming for is better performance and wellbeing for all.

So where can you start?

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