Are you giving yourself enough kudos to how good you really are?

When I work with people I get to know them pretty intimately. They share their passions, dreams, shortfalls, mistakes and frustrations. We have fun delving deep into exploring what makes them amazing and what doesn’t. Pretty revealing and personal stuff needed to unlock the authentic and purpose led individual they need to connect with in order to truly design the career they want or to empower them to up their performance game to fulfil their potential.

When we look at ‘personal powers’ – which is how I define the things you are amazing at – it always reveals one amazing limitation.

People rarely give themselves enough credit for what they are good at!

It’s a struggle for many people to see clearly all they have achieved and their true strengths. Peeling back and identifying what lies in your power bank is much harder than you think. Most people only really recognise the top layer of what they see as skills and strengths. Even then, a lot of people stop at simply listing out the tasks they can do well, missing out on giving themselves enough credit for how good they actually are. Important stuff if you want to sell yourself to a new employer or to get more responsibility, recognition and career advancement.

So, pause a moment – are you too quick to brush over your most amazing self? Is it easier to focus on what’s lacking?

If you want to achieve more and build up your confidence then you have the ingredients inside already to combat the inner negative chatter from the mind monkey which puts you down. You have more to offer than you likely think. You need to learn to give yourself more credit where it is due.

What are you personal powers?

Write a list today of what makes you great. See if you can fill a side of A4. Study it and embrace it as the truth pure and simple.

Believe in your best. Believe in making every day your best day.

We train people the way to treat us

Last week I ran one of my core workshops around working smarter and managing overwhelm. As what always happens, the focus of conversation fell on how hard it is to work smarter when other people interrupt and disrupt us and that smartphones are the bane of our lives.  People and technology the gateway to intrusion, interruption and frustration when we are trying our hardest to be productive.

The truth is we can point the finger of blame at others and technology, but if we truly want to manage our workloads and work smarter then we have to start by looking at ourselves. We are the main culprits of ineffective working. Therefore, we have to get clear on the behaviour, habits and thinking which get in the way of our own smarter working.

We have to set boundaries for ourselves and use these to train people on how we need to be treated to ensure effective working.

Today personal boundaries are all but disappearing in the workplace. Open plan offices make it easy for others to approach and interrupt. Technology means we are available in different ways 24/7. Fear of missing out dominates the mindset. Flatter hierarchies make things less formal, pushing the respect and flow boundaries which once streamlined communication.

But, we still have choices.
We can still choose how to respond to any situation, any person and any technology. That’s why the finger of blame lies above our own heads.

I remember working a 4 day week with Friday my day off. Without fail I would moan at the end of a Friday how much people had disturbed me, how much work I had had to do, how I was unable to focus on the children or whatever task I was doing. However, I chose to answer the phone, I chose to check emails, I chose to accept online meeting requests.

Our personal standards have slipped so that discipline, focus and respect are much lower than they use to be. But we still crave and need these for working smarter.

If we want to feel more in control of our working day and be more effective setting boundaries is fundamentally important to our success.

Boundaries  say ‘I have standards’ and that  ‘I am of value’.  They don’t say ‘I’m difficult’ or “I’m selfish’. They say ‘I am clear on how i want to live and work’ or ‘’I am in control of my effectiveness’ and “this is how I can give & achieve my best’.

I believe we are all hard wired to help others which makes it hard to put a barrier up to anyone. That we are the victim of our own habits meaning we reach for the smartphone unconciously more often than consciously. Furthermore, we owe it to our own wellbeing to set boundaries which to all intents and purpose are personal rules we live and work by. This way we can start to correct our own poor behaviour as well as that of those around us.

When I stopped turning my phone on on a  Friday and stopped accepting meeting requests, to begin with it rubbed people up the wrong way. They felt entitled to my availability because I had taught them that. Slowly I trained the people I worked with to treat me and my time differently by setting new boundaries. I audited what was working and what was not. Looked at cause and effect. It didn’t take long for them to accept the new rules I worked by, it didn’t mean i became completely inflexible and it changed others habits along the way. I noticed my team started to become more productive and effective themselves as a result of my boundaries – forward thinking what may need attention on my day off, increasing their resourcefulness and building their confidence to make their own decisions. You see there are advantages in saying No not just to you but also to others!

No is the hardest word, it makes or breaks any boundary you put in place.

It becomes easier to say No I promise when you truly connect to the reason for the boundary. For me it was about my wellbeing and the importance of connecting with my children in undisturbed moments. For a client of mine, who spent all her day in meetings having to work at night to do the bulk of her project work, it was easy to say No more often when she could explain that her quality of output was suffering. Easier for another who started to say No to working past 6.30pm because she had running club for mental health and wellbeing challenges she was facing. That powerful ‘Why’ behind the rules you set keeps a boundary firmly in place once established.

Boundaries maybe met with resistance, a little annoyance and frustration at first as you begin to train those around you. But persevere and communicate. Lead by example – treat people how you expect to be treated. Remember the end result you are aiming for is better performance and wellbeing for all.

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Do you understand the difference between guilt & shame?

I’d like you to encourage you to start to decipher the difference between guilt and shame self talk because it has a true impact on how we show up each and our performance.

Let me simply explain the difference .Guilt is about our behaviours and shame is about who we are. Too often I notice the two are intertwined when I coach people. When people are not happy with their behaviour, when they find themselves unaligned with what is important to them and their values the natural reaction is to be hard on themselves. To chastise themselves. This recognition of poor self leadership away from what your inner mentor knows you should be doing is the first step in correction. However, all to often when this happens it is the self-sabotaging power of ‘shame’ self talk which overpowers.

Guilt self talk holds the key to change. Shame self talk pulls you further down into misery. I know we don’t want to ideally feel either but if you are in this hole of self doubt and mind monkey chatter, by changing the tone and the words you can start to move out on quickly.

When you use words which imply guilt vs shame your mindset is ready to consider solutions and find motivation to correct behaviour. Shame closes you down, fills you with self-loathing, negativity and stops you being open to solutions.

I always use the fabulous Brene Brown’s approach of listening out for ‘I am’ (shame) vs ‘I did’ (guilt).

Let me give you a quick example from personal experience;

“I am awful! I am always so distracted with work I never listen properly to my children when they are talking to me’

vs

‘I didn’t listen to my child’s story because I was so distracted with thinking about work’

Which statement will serve you better? Which will enable you to open a debate which could lead to change or even acceptance?

If you hear an ‘I AM’ in your negative self talk then stop and rethink it. Is this really what you believe? how does it sound if you say it out loud – does it sound rational? if you were to say it to a friend would it be helpful, loving and motivating? Try changing the words to ‘I did’ and see if it eases the impact. You’ll see it gives you something to work with at least.

 

Tune it to your words and tone, step in and reframe and then change the self talk. Acknowledge when you may not be behaving how your inner mentor knows you should but then give yourself a chance to change it by working with guilt and not by shaming yourself.

5 ways to ensure you continue to stand out in your career

When we hit mid-career it is as important as ever to remembered, considered and to stand out in your career. You’ve carved a successful and rewarding career to date but still have plenty more to give and receive. Yes, there may be some happy to sit back and let the younger ones take over. Those who are happy  to give themselves a rest from all the opportunities and attention which come your way as a stand out person. But, reality is for the majority of us in our  40s and 50s, the idea of merging into the background and becoming part of the furniture is not going to cut it. Not if we want to look back on a fulfilling and meaningful career.

By now you’re an expert and a safe pair of hands that any business is proud to have in the team. So, why not make sure you continue to attract the recognition and reward your deserve and need.

Truth is that standing out brings more opportunity.  It helps you feel more secure and enables you to set yourself apart from others. It will boost growth, self-esteem and happiness at work and in life.

Here are 5 things to work on to ensure you continue to stand out in your career and industry.

1. Keep your eye on your personal brand

If you want people to see you and then remember you, you need to continually work at your personal brand. No successful brand stops tending to its architecture and positioning just because it’s been around for a while. This thinking is just as important for ‘brand You’ if you want others to keep buying you for jobs, service and opinion. Self-reflection is a good strategy to tune into regularly to keep an eye on your brand. You are more likely to stand out if you are living and working aligned to your deep purpose, values and true essence. Recognise that adjustments are needed in presentation  and communication of your USP at different points in your career. Be consistent in how you show up each day aligned to your brand and explore new channels to get yourself seen and heard. It may mean pushing yourself out of your comfort zone to do more networking, writing or tweeting. Then again, it may simply mean presenting yourself in a consistent confident authentic manner as you go about your daily work. Start with taking steps to understand ‘brand you’. Then start taking steps to ensure you are showcasing your unique authentic self everyday.

2. Never stop learning

Over the course of your working life you will naturally learn and add to the knowledge bank. But, as we get older the amount of learning definitely reduces. Time is often blamed for our inability to feed ourselves with new knowledge, trends and changes. Changing priorities, fast paced jobs and all the opportunities we can now choose from to fill our free time, mean life can really get in the way. Some are lucky enough to be fed opportunities to keep learning by their employers, but many are not. Learning is a key part of being able to stand out. When you learn you feed yourself with the ability to keep contributing more in so many ways. Being current keeps you interesting, helps generate ideas and enables you to engage with new people and new situations when many may find themselves lost for words. New skills open new doors and increases your value. Knowledge is power, so start to build purpose led learning in some form into your daily routine.

3. Be comfortable in your own skin

You are you and I am me, both successful and interesting. Yet, if we met today we’d potentially spend a split second (or longer) comparing ourselves. We may even feel a little crappy because we spot a ‘lacking’ in some area. It’s human nature for us to look at others because we seek validation and direction in some form. It can help keep us focused and driven. However, if we constantly fall into the trap of comparison, our self-worth and confidence will take a tumble which sends us retreating to the background. Those who can be more comfortable in their own skin don’t fall so easily for the mind monkey chatter about the people around them. They look at others and feel inspired. They accept their shortfalls as development opportunities and know how to tap into what they have and not what they have not. This boosts confidence and belief to keep themselves in the spotlight. So, when you hear the mind monkey or feel the negative emotions of comparison check in with yourself. Remind yourself of all your strengths and reinforce the positives.

4.Be communicative

I don’t believe I find a day where I don’t spot a moment when communication was not involved in some way with a challenge. It’s the same with being able to continually stand out. It’s not just because by nature the loudest will always get heard first. There are many quiet and reserved people I know who stand out too. But, communication becomes a problem in standing out when you don’t have conversations. That’s when you get lost in the crowd. If you are able to be more communicative, to find a level of confidence to speak up and get your point across you open doors, relieve tension and will always ensure you are remembered. It doesn’t have to be in a wide open forum or be loud and bold. Quiet and modest chat, even one to one, delivers impact in raising your profile. It’s what, how and the fact you are saying it that is important.

5.Be the happy face in the crowd

Look around the next time you are on a train, in a meeting or any crowded place. Who do you get drawn to? Those with their heads down, stern faces, frowns and exhausted expressions or those with a smile. A smile is a powerful tool in your box of tricks if you want to stand out. Give it a go and see the immediate benefit.

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Half year check-up & the truth about your goals

We’re well on the way into June now and suddenly reality is hitting that this means we’re half way through the year. Yep that’s right! How did that happen we all cry in unison.

So before we find ourselves well on the way towards the end of the year, it’s time for a half year check-up with what you wanted from 2018.

First, point of call. How are the goals? Have you achieved some and are you halfway there on others?

Goal setting is a passion of mine. Personal experience with my own goals and when working with clients, proves that that if you want to achieve more in your career and your performance you need clear direction and focus. You need a point to pin your energy against. What’s more  you need the ability to check in, monitor your own progression and create accountability.

So, back to the question. How are the 2018 goals?

If your answer is a celebratory dance because you are on track and moving forward, then give yourself a huge pat on the back. Make sure you can find a way to celebrate your success. You are rocking the year. But do read on for more tips for fine-tuning as you never know there maybe ways you can rock the year even more!

However, if there isn’t a celebratory dance. If your goals and ambitions for 2018 are still lying deflated on the floor needing a little love, attention and energising to start to materialise, don’t be too hard on yourself. Pushing yourself to achieve more and make changes is tough. Life gets in the way and not all goal setting works.

The truth about goals is they only work …..

  • If they really mean something to you: 

    If you have an emotional connection and will know the pain you will feel when you don’t attain them. That’s where motivation lies to pursue your goals. Make sure they are aligned to what you want not because others are asking you to do something. Definitely not because you are looking at others thinking ‘that’s what i should be doing’.

  • If they are specific:

    Being too broad or giving yourself too many things to aim for eliminates your ability to focus. It opens the door to overwhelm plus its friend procrastination.

  • When they are aligned to your bigger career and life vision:

    Annual goals should be the stepping stones towards what you really want to sit back in your rocking chair when you are in your 90s feeling proud, happy and fulfilled with about your life.  Be crystal clear on your life purpose and fundamental ‘why?’ of your goals to inspire yourself.

  • When they make you feel empowered: 

    If you confidently own something you are more likely to feel the personal power to drive it forward. If you are waiting for someone else to make the decisions and take the actions you may well be left waiting and waiting. If you are finger pointing and blaming others for stalling then you are not taking responsibility to lead yourself.

  • If you can picture your desired end result:

    There is power in positive visualisation. This is the focused act of persuading the unconscious brain through repetitive messages. The clearer you become on your goal vision – what it looks, feels, smells and tastes like, the more likely you will manifest it.

  • If you believe in them:

    All the visualisation and positive self-talk in the world will not drive you to success if you don’t actually believe you can achieve your end goal. Work on the limiting beliefs and the mind monkey chatter. These dilute your positive and empowering beliefs and feed your fear and self doubt.

  • If they stretch you or your situation:

    A goal that is too easy will never motivate you to push yourself. Aim to stretch yourself outside your comfort zone. But, don’t go too far as this will have the adverse effect and feed the fear!

  • If there is a deadline:

    It’s more of a wish if you don’t set yourself a realistic timeframe to achieve anything. No end date masks lack of commitment and belief in your goal.

  • If you accept setbacks as a learning:

    If you gave up earlier in the year because of a problem along the way, then now is the time to turn this experience on its head. It’s time to see the failure as a driver through learning. Being able to inspire yourself and keep moving with the downs as well as the ups is a big self-leadership mindset shift.

  • If you are working on them continually:

    That doesn’t mean everyday but achieving goals does require a level of commitment. Always ensure you keep moving forward with small steps constantly towards your goals.

We still have a full half year to achieve more of what we want. So, take time in the next couple of weeks to give yourself a half year check-up. What are the priorities? Where are you with your goals? What’s getting in the way? What from the list above is true when you think about your goals? How can you start to lead yourself more effectively?

Adjust and reset your goals. It’s time to ensure you are all set to achieve more of what you really want in 2018 and ultimately your the life plan starting right now.

Check in with me if you specifically need support by messaging me for a free discovery session. Believe in your best and lead yourself to success.

Victoria

5 ways to ‘max out’ confidently everyday

If you want to end each day feeling full of achievement, success and growth (personally and in your projects), then you need to learn how to confidently lead yourself to max out each day. That means being able to  make the most of yourself and of each day consistently. Here are 5 ways you can start to confidently ‘max out’ everyday.

Make more of your morning routine

Habits breed success and one key habit many successful people swear by is their morning routine. Getting up at the same time, having a set number of tasks in a particular order and making sure that they start the day with a positive mind, energised and ‘ready’ for the day ahead. Now, don’t start thinking you have to join the 5am club and get up with the sparrows to max the early hours – that works for some but not everyone. We cannot forget sleep is a fundamental productivity boost. What I have personally found is a successful morning may mean rising a that little bit earlier but the key things are consistency, a comfortable pace and doing more than just up/dress/eat/out. Routine plus adding more of what will energise you first thing is the shift you are seeking. Perhaps it’s yoga, breathing and gratitude exercises; a trip to the gym or a run; writing in a journal or working through your to do list calmly while ‘sitting’ and enjoying a cup of coffee in your favourite chair – the key is making the morning routine ‘your time and part of who you are’ to create energy and positivity to max out the day ahead.

Check out this article for some inspiration from those that make it work https://www.success.com/article/10-morning-routines-of-wildly-successful-entrepreneurs

Eat well

Are you a grab and gulper? Or perhaps a meal skipper? If you want to max out the day then you have to eat properly. The brain needs to be fed and food is its fuel. The right food, eaten mindfully and enjoyed will help you maximise the day. One thing you are definitely never going to be is more productive if you miss your lunch despite what the inner voices are leading you to believe when you have a deadline approaching and you keep going and going never breaking for ‘fuel’. The knock-on effect to skipping lunch is the brain can’t recover from the morning. Also, think about what you eat – get more fruit, lean meat, vegetables and stay hydrated (water literally should be on tap for you all day to keep you maxing out). Stick to meal times, have some healthy snacks and water on hand and don’t succumb to the sugar cravings when your body and brain finally connect and start to urge for the wrong food.

Dump the word busy

Being busy is a form of laziness – lazy thinking and indiscriminate action – Tim Ferris

I’m often called into help people to increase productivity and efficiency. I always start with asking them how they define their day. The word BUSY comes pouring out and often with a sense of achievement, a halo or badge of honour when actually what they are describing are hamsters running in wheels, no sense of purpose, direction and control. Busy is a default word where the correct descriptor is often ‘overwhelm’. People who max out their day don’t allow overwhelm to take over and they don’t use the word busy with pride. They can focus on the right things, remain present so they capture each thought and the response in the moment, have better relationships because they are engaged not distracted, they are moving forward not just moving and they park any concept of multi-tasking. This means they are able to think, do and feel great all at the same time. How do they do it? Prioritising (not just the to do list but leading with life priorities and purpose), planning with systems which work for them, they understand that time is their most valuable and unreplenishable resource and they are focused on attention not time management. They don’t allow themselves to become futile busy.

Don’t be managed by your email

Email is there to help us become more efficient and max out our time. it’s one of the best tools for keeping us on top of communication and allowing us to create flexible working. BUT… it is also the devil in our productivity toolbox because too many of us are led through the day by email. The temptation to check and recheck, to have it open and popping up with notifications is a strong one. However, let’s think about this in human terms. How would it feel if someone was constantly tapping you on the shoulder to show you something new, to whisper in your ear, to distract you and confuse you? You’d soon tell them to go away, move your desk or ask them to schedule time to see you. That’s exactly how you should treat email – schedule it! Choose 3 or 4 times a day when you will focus on email and use systems such as the 4ds process – Do – Delegate – Defer – Delete so that you manage email and don’t let it manage you.

Manage the voice in your head

People who max out their day understand that they have an inner mentor and an inner critic both  vying for attention.  Too often it is the critical harsh voice which shouts the loudest. It’s this voice we then follow without thought of the true impact on our effectiveness, attention and time. Learn the difference between your inner voices. Then assess whether the action you are taking is being led by judgement, negative perceptions and fear, or whether it is with wisdom, love and rational thought. It will help you say no more often than yes. Be more focused and prioritise the right things.

Maxing out your day means you are more likely to achieve more of what you want really from life. You know those things called enjoyment and balance! Consider how you can start to lead yourself more effectively. How you can start to shift yourself from where you are today to where you want to be.

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Could you be licking old wounds?

Have you ever felt hard done by, made a mistake, felt foolish or embarrassed? Been given negative feedback or lost an argument? These things are natural occurrences through our careers – we’re human and tough stuff happens. This is why self discovery is so important in shaping how you perform and how you can develop in your career.

These negative incidents, although painful, do shape us in a positive way through the lessons we learn and the developments we take away from each experience. However, they also ‘wound’ us because our natural response is often to take them personally and to dwell on them, building things up until the memory has even more pain and impact in our mind than the original incident itself. These things can often be found in the root of our self-limiting beliefs and fears stopping us from achieving more of what we want in our careers and out of our performance.

Identifying, naming and understanding that you have ‘wounds’ which you may still be licking is important if you want to understand why perhaps you feel unconfident at times, why procrastination kicks in, why your mind insists on overthinking some situations, why certain relationships are a struggle and why sometimes despite our best intentions we simply can’t move forward.

It doesn’t have to be big negative experience which ‘wound’ us, the smaller things can be just as effective in leaving us scarred. Through a process of self discovery consider what experiences lie in the back of your mind. Perhaps…

  • The critical line manager who once uttered some harsh words around your writing abilities
  • Dropping a cup of coffee the moment you started to set up for an important presentation
  • Finding out someone has been talking about you behind your back
  • Losing you temper under pressure and taking things out on you team members
  • Emailing an internal document to a client
  • Having a painful new business call with a rude and impatient prospect
  • Losing a pitch because you misunderstood the brief
  • Being over looked for a promotion
  • Getting made redundant……

Past mistakes, conversations and other negative occurrences which left you ‘wounded’ will show up without you knowing it. They hold you back, influence who you are today, the decisions you make, your willingness to stretch yourself out of your comfort zone, your confidence and they fuel self-doubt battles. They influence what we believe in the present.

In coaching, I remind my clients that by identifying an incident which has caused pain we are not seeking to fix, analyse and judge ourselves on the past. We spot them to understand and recognise things which have happened previously and which are limiting us in some way in the present or could trip us up if it continues to lie hidden in the subconcious. Awareness as always is a key self leadership foundation for success.

When you are licking your ‘wounds’ you are in protection mode and are in the process of building yourself back up. You are to all intents and purposes saying you are not ready yet to face similar situations, tasks and people. But you are ready. In fact, you are more than ready as you have gained a level of insight which has made you stronger in the face of the same and similar challenges right now and in the future.

So, could you be licking some old wounds which are stopping you leading yourself effectively and stopping you achieving more in your career and performance each day? Reflect, reassess and move forward believing the past is the past and the future is yet to be defined

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I stepchanged my effectiveness when I beat the personal pressure trap.

This month I’ve targeted myself to be more effective. To do this I’m starting with analysing my own habits and mindset which impact on how I show up each day at work and at home. One area over the years which has become very evident as a major impact on my effective levels is my tendency to put myself under a huge amount of personal pressure.

We can blame others, (society, our bosses and partners mostly spring to mind), but when it comes down to it, the responsibility for a lot of the pressure we feel everyday comes from our own thoughts and subsequent actions. Personal pressure can be one of our most self sabotaging habits.

If you are anything like me then personal pressure can come very easily and with no off button. It brings along frustration and annoyance. But despite recognising the negative energy of personal pressure, there is an internal inner whisper from the mind monkey which keeps you pushing and holding down the pressure button come what may.

Pressure to be perfect, pressure to always be ‘doing’ something, pressure to do what others are doing, pressure to do more……..

The list of where I put pressure on myself is built up from every category – work, relationships, friendships, parenting, health, exercise, eating, personal growth….. This is when pressure leads to overwhelm. On the plus side pressure pushes you to be your best and excel so there is some advantage but by doing so without a level of reality it also can lead to a negative impact on your overall wellbeing, performance and effectiveness.

If we want to be more effective the simple thing is we have to give ourselves a break and release some if not all of the personal pressure. At least the unnecessary and unrealistic pressure. Easier said than done. But by focusing on being kind and respecting ourselves, loving and valuing ourselves and managing our own standards and expecations, we can start to stepchange the way we show up and operate each day. We can cut back on personal pressure when we put our mind to it. Through this mindset shift and by recognising and kicking down limiting beliefs which fire up the mind monkey chatter which charge our personal pressure tendencies, we give ourselves more space and freedom to become more present in the moment and end up in most cases doing more and being more effective.

Finding a way to give myself a break I developed a bank of empowering beliefs as a self leadership strategy which include….

  • ‘Nothing’ is that important to push yourself to breaking point
  • Things will work out in the end – they always have so far….
  • There is no such thing as perfect (if there was then we’d all be average!)
  • Who cares what other people think, only my opinion really counts
  • Falling short or mishaps are a necessity for personal growth not a sign of disappointment or failure
  • It’s ok to sometimes sit down and do nothing
  • No one does their best under pressure
  • Feeling crap inside regularly is not acceptable
  • Comparison is the thief of joy (that one’s from Theodore Roosevelt)
  • I’m as healthy as I can be right now and it’s ok

AND one of the most powerful empowering thoughts I find really helps is….

  • Behind closed doors no one is living a magazine life, has their shit together everyday and isn’t struggling with managing ‘life/work’ in some way despite what they present to the outside world.

Take time to work out where you are putting too much pressure on yourself, break down limiting beliefs into empowering beliefs and start today to give yourself a well deserved break from unnecessary pressure and see your effectiveness levels rise.

Could you be doing something else?

Yesterday I met someone in the medical profession who originally trained as a photographer with a view of traveling and capturing the world. In fact, she did her degree in photography but soon after she qualified she decided that she wanted to pursue a different career path in medicine. She didn’t become a doctor or a nurse but forged her way into the world of healthcare using the skills and knowledge she had developed to date including photography. She took a non conventional, unplanned and undefined path to where she finds herself today.

One of my recent clients started their career in the army, then moved into the events business and more recently set up their own service based business in the education sector. Three different industries and roles but each using some of the skills obtained from the one before. Each role enabling them to be more of who they wanted to be and to achieve more as they gained greater personal awareness and as their situation in life changed.

I myself started my career in the world of marketing and then after 20 years finally made the switch into human resources and into learning and development. Personally, I had been thinking about changing things up for a while before finally making the move. Perhaps even if I am honest for 10 years before I finally did something about it. For a long-time I was under the impression that it was too late to change (yes even in my early 30s it felt I had made my bed so had to lie in it). I use to tell myself that I had spent an extensive time carving a career in one sector, reached a level with salary and perks I would not comparably find elsewhere. That I had gained specific experience and skills and that it would require a lot of money and time to retrain. That if I pursued doing something different I would be wasting what I had spent so long nurturing and building. That I could fall back in love with marketing and should just work harder at accepting work sometimes doesn’t excite, challenge or make you feel content. Spot the limiting beliefs!

Transitioning between careers whether in the same industry, company or into something completely new can be scary but it is often a necessity to keep us energised, fulfilled and growing. Change always comes with the face of the unknown and a need to force ourselves outside the security of comfort zone. It requires flexing and stretching of our thinking and behaviour into unfamiliar territory. It requires us to face some home truths. Those home truths may include an admittance of boredom, lack of challenge, a desire for more money, more success and more happiness when we go to work everyday. It requires an honesty around alignment of values, success criteria and the acceptance that we may not be following a career path we will be happy to look back on with pride and joy in years to come.  It  needs a realisation that we can work through the uncertainty, fear and uncomfort of change if we really want it and can lead ourselves more effectively.

Every day, we are growing and developing. We are building up a bank of experience and skills which are transferable. That is a key word to empower your belief in your ability to do something new – TRANSFERABLE. Transferable skills, knowledge, attitude and experience are fundamentally your licence to pursue a new career whether small or big in its change, along with the empowering beliefs that you don’t have to stick with your first choice and that you deserve to continue to design a career which makes you feel excited, energised, challenged and satisfied.

So, if you have been wondering ‘Could I be doing something else?’ but are hesitating and putting up barriers I want you to tell yourself that the answer you are looking for is absolutely YES!

Keeping fresh, engaged and enabling yourself to achieve more at work and ultimately in life needs a constant reflection on what you are doing, why and how you are working. If you are getting the itch to make some changes then go for it. You have more inside you than you think and there is so much more out there for you to experience.

Start by visualising where you want to be in 2, 5 and then 10 year’s time. Then tackle the limiting beliefs – they may not be obvious because to you right now they are 100% true and won’t at first glance be recognised as limiting thought behaviour. Your beliefs may be like mine but they may be more personal and specific to your situation so take time to spot them by asking yourself the question ‘What reasons have I for staying where I am’? These reasons are indications to your beliefs right now so when you see them on paper look for the opposite statement as a way of challenging them and identifying if they are really motivating. Then, maybe this time next year you could be doing something else, how exciting and rewarding would that be?

Need any support? Get in touch and let’s chat through your challenge and how you could take steps to move yourself forward.

Design, Direct and Shine in a Career you love and can thrive in – find out more about coaching with Victoria Walsh at The Believe Consultancy here.